I have come across the most interesting thing of late and I have no solution as I'm knee-deep in the process of processing, if you will.
I realized today that I have been too wrapped up in what other people in my life are doing. In other words, I know too much.
One of the biggest blessings in my life is the sheer amount of people in it. I have had an abundance of blessings dumped on my head in that department, no doubt, but the thing is, I've allowed myself to take too much of what other people are doing on. Let me explain.
I hear all kinds of things from all kinds of people, all of the time. From the closest of friends to a first-time student at the studio, I get my fair share of people sharing their life circumstances with me. Good, bad and everything in-between. The problem isn't with folks sharing, it's with me grabbing onto some of the things and not letting go very easily.
Like this morning for instance. I found myself cleaning the kitchen and simultaneously having a conversation between myself and a friend. We were going back and forth in a sort of fantasy extension of a previous conversation. In other words, the words we exchanged in-person clearly were not sufficient so here I was talking it out in my head.
I have to be honest, I'm starting to realize that I'm in too deep with some of the people I interact with if I'm mulling their life situations over long after I was initially looped-in. So now what? This is where I'm in the process of processing. What's a good way for me to be present for things I'm told without revisiting them (sometimes again and again) after?
And let me be clear here, I'm not talking about friends in tough life situations where my thoughts and prayers were promised. Of course, I'm going to have them and their trials on my mind, that's to be expected and I'm fine with that. It's the smaller things, in some cases the petty things, or the "none of my business despite the fact you told me" things.
One thing I know for sure is that I'm not a candidate for imposing some sort of mental cut-off. I am a human being who feels and cares about many people deeply and I don't, nor would I ever want to, shut that part of me off. Impossible, really. So what to do from here?
If and when I am able to make some space between some of these life situations and my wonky desire to keep revisiting what I've been told, I will come here and provide an update or if you have a suggestion, please share. I know there's something I can do that honors who I am and where I'm coming from because, in the end, I know that I only want the best for all of these folks or they wouldn't keep popping up.
Making space between what I'm privy to and not getting caught-up in the life situations of others...
Let the unwrapping commence!