It has come to my attention that my tastes around certain things have become more particular as the days roll by.
Take for instance my choices with whom I wish to spend time with. Seems unbeknownst to me I'm getting way more discerning in that area.
I have been on what feels like a very accelerated evolutionary journey the past few years and I can hardly keep up with my changing demeanor and tastes, so often, I'm the last to know.
It begins with a sort of magnetic pull either towards a new way of being or away from a previous way of being but trust me, it's a pull either way. A strong one that if pushed aside will show up again and again until I do.
I know for a fact I have more introverted tendencies now than ever. I was always a "Look at me, Ma!" extrovert but that's no longer the case. I can "people" for only so long and I desperately need time alone or time with one of my cherished "recharging souls" to once again, find my center.
It's a little weird and I wonder if you've found more profound shifts in what and whom you enjoy as you've gotten older and hopefully, wiser.
This week it became glaringly clear that I really do want to be with the people I enjoy most and leave "taking one for the team" to another player. I have certainly been that player both in my personal as well as my professional life for YEARS but I don't seem to feel the need to be that gal anymore.
I have to say in all honesty, I asked myself if that revelation was kind of selfish on some level and I decided that it's not. It's not selfish, it's self-care and it's the nicest thing I could do for myself as well as the other party/parties. Why would I want to be present at anything I'm not going to be present at?
Let me be clear though, I'm not talking about permission to not show up during life situations like visiting a sick friend or attending a funeral. One has nothing to do with the other.
So what about you? Do you still find yourself on a "girl's nights out" with people you really no longer enjoy but because you've "known each other forever" you stick and stay? How about in the business space? "Doing coffee" with blowhards that rarely come up for air and seldom if ever ask about you and your business? The list could go on and on...from lame family gatherings that end up more hurtful than helpful to "close friends" you've allowed to do nothing but take and take as you set another "brick" in place on the resentment wall.
Discerning taste. It used to be exclusive to aristocracy but no more. There's nothing wrong with having a preference and honoring that preference. From the way you are treated to the company you keep, life's short. Spend it with the ones that bring life to life.
"Discernment comes out of the renewed spirit." - Joyce Meyer