I had the coolest observation shared with me this morning, it touched my heart and I thought it was SO cool, I felt compelled to write about it.
Last weekend I participated in a community event and along with me at that event were several friends - representing everyone from the acquaintance variety to a "closest" moniker.
The way the story was relayed was that "Mary", upon entering her car, happened to glanced up and noticed two people sitting under one of the canopy's that were set up.
As you can probably imagine, one of those two people, was me and what Mary noticed was that my friend and I weren't just sitting across from one another on folding chars, by ourselves under this canopy but that we were both on the edges of our respective seats, literally "leaning into" one another as we were conversing.
Mary thought this quite endearing and said in that moment, she understood how much we must really like one another - to be so interested in what each of us had to say that our bodies literally reflected that level of engagement.
At the time, of course, I had no idea anything other than probably laughing with my friend was going on but I love that both of us were enjoying each other that much. How rare it is these days to just converse without distraction much less, be on the edge of your seat, desiring to fully engage.
As I thought about Mary's "share" this afternoon it made me realize that in order to have people we can lean on, we need to seek out and cultivate more relationships that cause us to lean in.
Relationships that make me "lean in" are connected, ones that the author Brene' Brown defines as “...the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”
Ironically, I have had all of those qualities honored in that friendship at one time or another, if not all at once so although it was an observation I truly appreciate hearing about, I'm not completely surprised I was completely engrossed.
So! Do tell! Who makes you "lean in?" Makes you want to hear more, learn more, be more?
Thank you for the validation and the reminder today, Mary.
I truly value my "lean in level" relationships and I hope to continue to bestow and reap the rewards that come when connection is the ultimate goal.